What do you want? It seems like an easy question. Until you really think about it.
Life is a bit like one of those restaurant menus that have all day breakfasts, delicious appetizers, amazing dinners, and a full page of mouth-watering desserts. You go into the restaurant wanting to eat, plain and simple. Then you sit down and see the menu, only to realize you want it all!
From there, you’re forced the consider what you really need and want in order to fulfill your truest desires. You think about whether or not you got enough veggies that day, or if you need more fiber or iron. You also consider the fact that you're out with friends, so ordering something sweet to experience the pure enjoyment of food might be a good idea, too. So many things to think about!
The same applies when it come time to thinking about our own lives and our own futures. How many of you have been asked “Where do you see yourself in 1 year? 5 Years? 10 Years?”
How often, when presented with that question, do you come up with a fluffy answer like “I want to be happy, healthy, and living a stable life.” While that answer checks off the boxes of wanting a good future, it doesn’t actually say much, which makes accomplishing it a real challenge.
If you don’t have a clear, honest vision of what you want, how will you know what you are working towards, what you deserve, and whether or not your succeeding?
Far too often people try to downplay their personal vision so they don’t look selfish, or arrogant, or any other words that may seem to paint them in a negative light. But if you’re not honest with yourself about what you want, or what you deserve, again, how will you get it?
Thinking about that fluffy answer above, let's break it down more:
What would make you happy? Is it money? A good job? Your dream car?
What would keep you healthy? Learning to cook healthy but delicious meals? Going to the gym regularly? Learning to dance? Having a good healthcare plan?
What does living a stable life look like to you? Is it finding the perfect partner? Having kids? Living in your dream house? Finding time to travel?
When you can paint that picture for yourself, in full color, you can truly begin to manifest it and create a proper action plan to go get it.
Keep this in mind:
There is nothing wrong with saying you want to live in your dream house or make lots of money in your dream job. There is nothing wrong with saying you want to be a good parent, have three dogs, or be a yogi. There is nothing wrong with saying you want to be financially stable enough to buy a new expensive handbag each year, or to be healthy enough to run a marathon.
There is, however, something wrong with denying yourself the life you want to live because you’re afraid to say what you really want. Whether you fear judgement, or failure, or anything else, if you aren’t willing to admit what you want, in the end, you will be the only one holding yourself back from the life you dream.
Take some time over the next week to really give some thought to what you want. Make a list, a good honest list. Write it down, manifest it and go get it! Be a go getter, not a no getter - your dream life is waiting for you.
Did this scratch the surface for you? Want to dig deeper to really map out what you want and make it happen? Let’s chat! I’d love to help you.